I turned on my computer not knowing what to write when I saw an article where Miley Cyrus was being interviewed. Miley pretty much wrote this article for me.
Quick note I am not going to write a rebuttal to the whole article because that would turn into a book like Jonathon Sarfati would write, but I do want to look at a few things that were said…
How did you become involved with the LGBTQ community?
“My whole life, I didn’t understand my own gender and my own sexuality. I always hated the word “bisexual,” because that’s even putting me in a box. I don’t ever think about someone being a boy or someone being a girl. Also, my nipple pasties and sh*t never felt sexualized to me. My eyes started opening in the fifth or sixth grade. My first relationship in my life was with a chick. I grew up in a very religious Southern family. The universe has always given me the power to know I’ll be OK. Even at that time, when my parents didn’t understand, I just felt that one day they are going to understand.”
There is too much in this to address it all, but I want to point out her comment saying “The universe has given me the power to know I’ll be okay.” This seems from a purely logical standpoint tough to prove. The universe doesn’t have any authority and stating that it says certain things are okay can be disproved by simply stating it told me they weren’t. There is no doctrine in the universe thus it has to rely on what we feel and just because you feel a certain way doesn’t make it true. That still makes it a feeling.
What I also like and this is bigger than Miley is the idea that you can find peace from the universe but laugh at the idea of a God let alone Him being someone you can find peace from. People of Miley’s ilk would laugh at the mere idea of believing in a God but whole heartily put their faith in the universe. Seems confusing to me.
The definition of the universe is “All of space and everything in it including stars, planets, galaxies, etc.” How does one get the power to know that their sexuality is okay from the stars, planets, and galaxies? I to live in the universe but I haven’t heard much talking from stars. The planets have been pretty quiet as well.
Why do you think inequality still exists for women in Hollywood?
“A lot of it could be changed if we had a female president. That would give us a subconscious boost. I think people will have to realize they’re looking really dated. For example, there’s a show called “Supergirl.” I think having a show with a gender attached to it is weird. One, it’s a woman on that f*cking billboard — it’s not a little girl. Two, what if you’re a little boy who wants to be a girl so bad that this makes you feel bad? I think having a title like “Supergirl” doesn’t give the power that people think it does.”
This has to be the singular dumbest thing I have ever read in my entire life. Men and woman have existed for a long long time. Calling a show “Supergirl” is an absolute zero on the scale. In fact, it’s probably a negative number it’s so low. If we are going to start naming shows with the basis that a little boy who wants to be a little girl can’t be offended by a billboard with a female super hero, then we have absolutely lost it. The idea that we need to craft a society so that NO ONE is ever offended is impossible and fixes nothing. Crafting society around peace will not work. Look at the parents whose goal in their family is to have peace. That parenting doesn’t work. The kids are almost always unruly because the parents let them do whatever they want. The goal of a family and society should be love. My family says things I don’t agree with. Who says we have to agree with everyone? When we strive for peace then everyone agreeing is crucial. When we strive for love agreement is meaningless because we love the person no matter what their belief is. I know for a FACT that if I were to ever get a girl pregnant and move to Florida my mom and dad would come down there and scream at me for being a coward. They would drag my butt on the plane to take me back home and make me face my responsibilities. I hope they would offend me in a serious way. I know for them to take time off from work, buy airplane tickets, etc.… would mean they love me enough to offend me. If I moved to Florida and they said “Oh okay, what are you going to do?” that would be a response based on peace, not in love. In the short-term I may wish they would take that approach in the long-term it would hurt me that they don’t actually love me.
I do agree that “Supergirl” doesn’t give the power people think it does. The idea that women have been held back and the way we are going to fix it is by coming up with a show called “Supergirl” should be offensive to all women. The general manager at my company is a woman. Everybody in the company loves her. She is awesome and fantastic at her job!! There is no “Well she’s good at her job for a women.” She’s not. She’s just simply good at her job. She was good at her job before “Supergirl” and will be good at her job after “Supergirl”. She is good because she works hard, communicates effectively, and has a higher standard on her own work that the owners have for her. There is no outside force that can affect her because she has looked at herself in the mirror and set a high standard.
The way I view a great hypothetical question is based on the amount of time you can argue about it. I will take to the grave my belief that the best hypothetical question of all time is what you would do if you won the lottery. Not far behind it is the hypothetical of would you want the ability to read minds?
To answer yes the logic seems simple. Partially because as someone who has dabbled in magic your career would take off quicker than David Blaine’s disappeared (insert he’s the ultimate magician to make his career disappear joke that we all thought.) The second reason and the primary reason is for the girls. We all have this fantasy of walking by a cute girl and seeing a thought bobble pop up with the words “Daaaaaaaaang that guy is really cute” or “I wonder if he’s single? No he can’t be. No one that attractive could still be on the market.” It’s a noble thought and maybe if you looked like the late great Paul Walker it would actually come into fruition. Unfortunately for me and everyone reading this, we’re ugly. The thought bubble would read more like “Daaaaaaaaaang it I chipped a nail. Wait, why is that ugly guy staring at me? What a creep!” or “HAHAHAHAHA that guy has no shot at all, but I will let him buy me a drink.” Are fantasies would be dashed within a couple of days of getting this profound gift.
To answer no, once again has simple logic. I don’t think we would survive more than a week if we actually knew what other people thought of us. Females wouldn’t make it more than 4 days and maybe a guy like Tony Robbins could make it a month? But I for one would be on the Narrows Bridge ready to jump within 7 days. The other reason which doesn’t get talked about as much is if you can read other people’s minds, does that mean they can read yours? In this world of mind reading you would have to imagine that other people besides you could read minds, right? I for one do not want anyone reading my thoughts and I will leave it at that.
All of that brings me to my main point. Thoughts. I recently read a sports psychologist book that stated the 3 main factors to athletic success are 1. Your muscles, 2. Your brain, and 3. Your mind. The author states most athletes never get past the pain they feel from their muscles or their brain. The great ones push past both of those and unlock the capabilities of their mind.
I find in my life and by doing a quick check of motivational videos with millions and millions of views that people aren’t happy with their life to some extent. I have a couple of ideas as to why which I will list below.
We sculpt are lives around what other people think of us not what we think of ourselves. We all have dreams or visions or something in life that gives us a purpose, but we are scared to go after them because of the negative push back we might get. You want to be a comedian, an actor, a painter, an interior designer, an etc. We worry so much about well what if I paint something and people don’t like it? What if I tell a joke that people don’t find funny? What if my friends and I make a movie and it sucks? What if? The answer is it doesn’t matter. If you love to paint and they suck, that’s okay. If you are doing something you love to do it doesn’t matter what the final result is because the process is what it is all about. I find it insane that we won’t do certain things because of how people may view us, thus hurting how we view ourselves. Do you what you love to do because you love to do it. Don’t do it in the hope that people will like it and don’t not do it because you think they will hate it. Do it because you love to do it and when people do what they love there is a natural passion that will draw people in.
The other thing we do is have an I don’t care what other people think attitude. This is probably better than the afore-mentioned but not by much. I have found that people who say they don’t care what others think actually care more. When we shape our image around not caring what others think it tends to lead to our creative product being made out of the corner you have backed yourself in to rather than it being a genuine creation of who you are. Don’t care what everyone thinks but care when others you trust/look up to say something about your craft. Don’t back yourself into a creative corner because of the I don’t care what you think mantra you invented.
If you go up to Tom Cruise and say “Hey Tommy (Me and him are that tight) I want to be an actor” and you do a scene for him to which he replies “I’ll see you in another life … when we are both cats.” Then proceeds to tell you, you suck, take that to heart and have the mindset that yes he’s right, but do I care enough about my craft to change his mind?
Imagine a world where people didn’t solely chase after their dreams when there brain was in a good place. Imagine a world where people didn’t solely chase after their dreams when their muscles didn’t hurt or their body didn’t ache. Imagine a world where we ignored are thoughts and unlocked the mind to not become the greatest, but to become the greatest YOU.
You care what others think. You do. It’s human nature. That’s fine. Hear what they say but don’t let what they say define you. Decipher advice from criticism because in the end you have a Creator who says “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” and to put weight into how mere mortals define your worth, is, well, simply foolish.
The Left – He was a loving family man, a staple of his community. He was a deacon in the church, he was well-known for his big heart and warming smile.
The Right – He was a criminal, there was a warrant out for his arrest. He had a rap sheet as long Psalms 119, he had PCP and was disobeying the officer’s direct orders.
Whether the left is correct or the right is correct doesn’t matter. We have a problem. Regardless of how big or small you may think the problem is, arguing about it doesn’t change the fact that the problem exists. I don’t think anyone who is in their right mind can argue that.
We like to talk about problems and how big they are. We may even toss in an idea on how to fix them, but we rarely do. What I write below is from the viewpoint of someone who would prefer that African-American people nor cops get gunned down in the street and will be looking at this issue strictly as what is happening. I believe families, Jesus or the lack there of, community, and education all play a huge role in what is happening in all of society but I am going to leave those factors out or at least try to and strictly look at the issue at hand. Below are my response to the police, the African-American community, and us who are more of a 3rd party in this issue
To the Police
I got pulled over a few months ago for speeding. When the officer walked up to my car and asked for insurance, license and, registration, I realized I had forgotten to grab my registration out of the glove box. Thinking nothing of it I reached for the glove box and saw the officers hand head towards his gun. I can’t imagine having that type of fear at my daily job. I really can’t. I know I am good person who wouldn’t harm anyone, but the officer doesn’t. When I reach for my glove box I know a weapon isn’t in there, the officer doesn’t. I understand where you are coming from. I understand the stress this job puts on you and the family type atmosphere you have with your fellow officers who patrol the same streets you do. But no matter how tight of a family you have created one thing must go above everything else, and that is what is right. You see a fellow officer treating someone poorly, you stop them. You see a fellow officer repeatedly kick someone who has been cuffed, you stop them. You see a fellow officer pull out a gun on an innocent person, you stop them. You see an officer shoot an innocent person, you arrest them. 99.9% of cops are good. The best thing you can do is recognize that the .01 does exist and do everything in your power to not let them define you as whole. Don’t let your identity be defined from the worst of the group. Let it be defined by the best
Reach out the communities you serve in. Have a heart to heart and apologize for the actions of a few bad cops. Cry with them because you know they didn’t deserve what happened. Ask them how you can improve in your procedures, ask them how you can help them feel more comfortable around the police. Listen to what they say and start training your officers in the solutions they offer. It won’t be easy. It really won’t be. But when love is the foundation peace can be had and I know for myself I would rather do something difficult for lasting change than sit around talking about it. Thank you for service and all that you do. I appreciate it even if that doesn’t always come across.
To the African-American Community
“The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Through violence you may murder the liar, but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth. Through violence you may murder the hater, but you do not murder hate. In fact, violence merely increases hate. So it goes. Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that” – MLK.
I understand the mindset of you want to gun us down, we will gun you down. Tit for tat. Unfortunately that won’t work. Are you interested in fixing the problem or reciprocating violence? If you are interested in fixing the problem. Awesome, so am I. In my mind here’s where you start. Humble yourself to the police. Vocalize that you understand the stress they go through. Even if you don’t mean it or believe it, it will help ease their stress. Stand arm in arm with the good cops. When a cop shoots an innocent person realize that is a bad cop. Not every cop. Be outraged at the cop! Be furious!!! But don’t stereotype the police force because of it. If you don’t want to be stereotyped then stop stereotyping others.
Step up! You don’t like cops or how they treat you. Become one. Be the change you want to see. If your neighborhood grows up with the will to one day become cops so they can better serve the community they grew up in; that is when change happens. This argument of well the cops need to change is accurate. The counter argument that you need to change is accurate as well. Change needs to come from both sides. Stop arguing about who should change and step up and change it yourself. Sit down with the local police force and have a heart to heart. Apologize for your friend or sibling or others in the community who gunned down an officer with the emphasis that they were a bad apple. Tell them they are an outlier of a community. Not the norm. Don’t identify yourself with the bad apples. Identify yourself with the good ones. Tell them and show them you are just as peaceful and deserves as much respect as any other ethnicity. Ask the force what the best possible way to respond is when we are pulled over. Ask how we can put the officer’s mind at ease. Is it fair that you guys may have to above and beyond what other races do when it comes to how the police force views you? Absolutely not!! It’s not fair at all. But that is the point. Stop complaining about how it’s not fair and start making change so it won’t matter whether the system is fair or not because the system will no longer exist. Love brings us together not violence.
To Everyone Else
I see you debating about it on Facebook. Should Kaepernick kneel or stand? He’s raising awareness. He’s disrespecting the flag. I see others post links to different shootings with words such as “I am shaking. Weeping. Afraid. Overcome with grief. God have mercy.” I love the emotions you feel and that we all feel. Unfortunately for us a Facebook post doesn’t evoke change and in reality it doesn’t even start a conversation, just an argument.
When I drive on the freeway and see a click it or ticket sign I always wonder who it is for. Everybody in this country knows to where there seatbelt. At this point it is a decision you make not to. That sign is not going to convict the 1% of people who choose not to. The small percent of true racists are not going to be swayed by your Facebook citing what is wrong. Level headed people understand that racism is wrong. Crazy people are rooted in their racist ways just like the non-seat belt wearers are. Your words are meaningless if not backed up by action. True action. Kaepernick is taking a stand ironically by taking a knee. I respect that. But what is the end goal here? He donated a million dollars. Awesome. But what is that going to change? All you people complain about the wrongs which are going on, I hear you, I do. But let me ask you this. When is the last time you have been to the ghetto? Never? A couple of years ago? Trust me you know where it is. It’s the place you are scared to go to, or at least scared to go to past a certain time. I hear what you are saying but I don’t see you in those streets helping build the community. Raising awareness even donating money are not bad things, but they are not close to as valuable as YOUR time. If you care as much as it seems you do on FB, go walk the streets handing out free lunches. Get to know the community. Volunteer to help these kids learn how to read. You do construction? Awesome!! Take your Saturday and volunteer in the ghetto by fixing someone’s leaky roof. Show them positive role models no matter what your skin color and show them you not only care, but you love them. Don’t just love your neighbor when it’s a rich guy who owns a boat that you get to use. Love them when it’s the house at the end of the cul-de-sac who you are afraid to make eye contact with. The house you tell your kids to stay away from. Love them!! Stop telling me about how I should love my neighbor from behind your keyboard when you don’t even know your neighbors name.
I say all this because it appears you care based on all the Facebook arguments you get in about it. If you don’t truly care then that is your choice. If getting to know your neighbor or serving meals in the part of town you feel uncomfortable in is too tall an order for you. Fine. Just stop the pretending. Don’t get on your high horse when your high horse is tied up in the nice part of town. It might be time to take that high horse out for a ride and you know exactly where you need to go. Love means nothing without actions. Nobody is forcing you to love everyone, but if you are going to continually preach it. It may be time to start practicing it as well.