The way I view a great hypothetical question is based on the amount of time you can argue about it. I will take to the grave my belief that the best hypothetical question of all time is what you would do if you won the lottery. Not far behind it is the hypothetical of would you want the ability to read minds?
To answer yes the logic seems simple. Partially because as someone who has dabbled in magic your career would take off quicker than David Blaine’s disappeared (insert he’s the ultimate magician to make his career disappear joke that we all thought.) The second reason and the primary reason is for the girls. We all have this fantasy of walking by a cute girl and seeing a thought bobble pop up with the words “Daaaaaaaaang that guy is really cute” or “I wonder if he’s single? No he can’t be. No one that attractive could still be on the market.” It’s a noble thought and maybe if you looked like the late great Paul Walker it would actually come into fruition. Unfortunately for me and everyone reading this, we’re ugly. The thought bubble would read more like “Daaaaaaaaaang it I chipped a nail. Wait, why is that ugly guy staring at me? What a creep!” or “HAHAHAHAHA that guy has no shot at all, but I will let him buy me a drink.” Are fantasies would be dashed within a couple of days of getting this profound gift.
To answer no, once again has simple logic. I don’t think we would survive more than a week if we actually knew what other people thought of us. Females wouldn’t make it more than 4 days and maybe a guy like Tony Robbins could make it a month? But I for one would be on the Narrows Bridge ready to jump within 7 days. The other reason which doesn’t get talked about as much is if you can read other people’s minds, does that mean they can read yours? In this world of mind reading you would have to imagine that other people besides you could read minds, right? I for one do not want anyone reading my thoughts and I will leave it at that.
All of that brings me to my main point. Thoughts. I recently read a sports psychologist book that stated the 3 main factors to athletic success are 1. Your muscles, 2. Your brain, and 3. Your mind. The author states most athletes never get past the pain they feel from their muscles or their brain. The great ones push past both of those and unlock the capabilities of their mind.
I find in my life and by doing a quick check of motivational videos with millions and millions of views that people aren’t happy with their life to some extent. I have a couple of ideas as to why which I will list below.
We sculpt are lives around what other people think of us not what we think of ourselves. We all have dreams or visions or something in life that gives us a purpose, but we are scared to go after them because of the negative push back we might get. You want to be a comedian, an actor, a painter, an interior designer, an etc. We worry so much about well what if I paint something and people don’t like it? What if I tell a joke that people don’t find funny? What if my friends and I make a movie and it sucks? What if? The answer is it doesn’t matter. If you love to paint and they suck, that’s okay. If you are doing something you love to do it doesn’t matter what the final result is because the process is what it is all about. I find it insane that we won’t do certain things because of how people may view us, thus hurting how we view ourselves. Do you what you love to do because you love to do it. Don’t do it in the hope that people will like it and don’t not do it because you think they will hate it. Do it because you love to do it and when people do what they love there is a natural passion that will draw people in.
The other thing we do is have an I don’t care what other people think attitude. This is probably better than the afore-mentioned but not by much. I have found that people who say they don’t care what others think actually care more. When we shape our image around not caring what others think it tends to lead to our creative product being made out of the corner you have backed yourself in to rather than it being a genuine creation of who you are. Don’t care what everyone thinks but care when others you trust/look up to say something about your craft. Don’t back yourself into a creative corner because of the I don’t care what you think mantra you invented.
If you go up to Tom Cruise and say “Hey Tommy (Me and him are that tight) I want to be an actor” and you do a scene for him to which he replies “I’ll see you in another life … when we are both cats.” Then proceeds to tell you, you suck, take that to heart and have the mindset that yes he’s right, but do I care enough about my craft to change his mind?
Imagine a world where people didn’t solely chase after their dreams when there brain was in a good place. Imagine a world where people didn’t solely chase after their dreams when their muscles didn’t hurt or their body didn’t ache. Imagine a world where we ignored are thoughts and unlocked the mind to not become the greatest, but to become the greatest YOU.
You care what others think. You do. It’s human nature. That’s fine. Hear what they say but don’t let what they say define you. Decipher advice from criticism because in the end you have a Creator who says “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” and to put weight into how mere mortals define your worth, is, well, simply foolish.