The above pictures has been making the rounds on social media. The place I got it from had over 50k shares and 100,000k likes. It seems harmless enough, but I can’t stand the message its making. It hits close to home for me because in two weeks I turn 23. I am writing this mainly for myself, but as well as motivation to you reading this.
I am someone who likes pain and likes being uncomfortable. I like those because that is when you grow. I recently had a meeting with my boss where I basically said “My job is too easy and I want to do things that I don’t know how to do.” If you workout the best thing you can be is sore. That means you have broken you muscles down and they are rebuilding stronger. This picture makes it seem like you don’t have to worry and everything will be alright. “Oh you don’t believe me? Well look at these successful people who at the age of 23 were struggling. It worked out for them, didn’t it?”
Below I will do a little back story on each of the 4 named people and will explain to you that you should worry and everything won’t be okay.
At 23 she had graduated from college with a 4 year degree in French and Classics. Once she graduated she got a job as a researcher and bilingual secretary. It says she was broke but she had a job and by all accounts made enough to pay her bills. That makes her like 98% of people out there. Two short years later at the age of 25 she came up with the idea for Harry Potter. While technically at age 23 she wasn’t doing great, she had career possibilities. She is also a genius and if you are reading this that means you aren’t. Shots fired at me and you. If you are 23, I wouldn’t bank on pulling the Harry Potter idea out of your butt in 2 years.
At 23 she had already graduated from college with a Bachelor of Arts degree in drama. While at school she studied play-writing and acting and was awarded the Pettway Prize. She may have had a job YMCA but she had a degree in the field she wanted to get into. Like J.K Rowling she is also a genius. If you’re sitting at home waiting to magically turn into to Tina Fey then you’re off to a bad start.
This is where it gets easy. She was fired from being a television reporter at the age of 23. I would like to point out that in order to get fired as a television reporter, you have to first be a television reporter! Oprah wanted to get on T.V and she did. She may have gotten fired, but she had a job in the field she wanted to be in. You are 23 and haven’t even decided what you want to do in life. Let alone to have already gotten fired from it.
Saved the easiest for last. He went bankrupt at age 23 meaning he took enough risks in life to where if he failed, he would go bankrupt. He went bankrupt because he started a film company and even signed a deal with a production company. That deal didn’t go as well as planned which led to him going bankrupt. Again, he was chasing after his dreams with no fear. He knew what he wanted to do and went after it at full speed, crashed, and got right back in the car
My main message here is whatever you want to do. DO IT!!! Yes, at the age of 23 none of them were who they are now, but they were laying the foundation for their life. They were either going to school, working in the field they wanted to be in, or were doing what they wanted to do. Don’t sit at home thinking one day you will wake up and appear in your dream job. That first of all takes talent. Secondly, it takes an insane work ethic where you out work everyone and then work some more. Thirdly, it takes courage. You will fail, you will not get knocked down, but you will get back up. Rocky said it best when he said “It’s not about how hard you can hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward.” Lastly, they had a little luck. Not the win the lottery type of luck. I am talking about the talent + hardworking + courage type of luck where they put themselves in an opportunity to get the one break they needed to be successful. If you are waiting for your break but haven’t done the first three things I mentioned, you will be waiting for ever.
The worst thing you can do is only dream. If you only dream about what you want to do you will never reach it. The longer you think about your dream but don’t chase after it, the more impossible your dream starts to feel. It is a long journey but it starts with two important steps. Dream and then take action. These steps don’t guarantee success, but it at least gives you a chance.
If you hit a half court buzzer beater to win a basketball are you lucky? I don’t know. What I do know is that you were in the game. You can’t win the game from the bench. You can’t win the game from the crowd and you definitely can’t win the game sitting at home. It’s time to get in the game.
I know you are not supposed to talk about yourself if you want a successful blog, but I am going to bend that rule today. I need some help from my reader. You know who you are. What am I supposed to do with my dreams and your dreams? I will explain what I mean by that below.
I want very few things more than being someone who talks for a living whether that be blogging, podcasting, and/or radio. It is my dream. However, my dreams confuse me. I am at the point of my life being 22 years old where I don’t know how to tell if this is something I am meant to do or something I simply want to do.
For example: If you went down to the steel plant and interviewed everyone there and asked “Would you rather work here or be a famous actor?” 99% of people would say “Be a famous actor.” That would sound like a lot more fun to them than being at the steel plant 7-3:30 every day. I feel like I am in the same boat. Being a blogger sounds like a lot more fun than my current job. I can’t tell if the reason I want to blog is because I am called to do it or because it seems like more fun than working at the steel plant? Am I one of the few who has the skill to be a famous talker or I am one of the many who is delirious thinking they have what it takes, but really don’t?
I don’t know you find out the answer to my last questions which is why I am writing this today.
My main point is to ask you guys what you think? If you tell me to stop writing and that I suck, I will appreciate the feedback. Not that I will stop writing because I really like to do it. It will just let me know that I haven’t achieved my goal yet and I still have a lot of work to do. If you tell me I’m good, I will also appreciate that. It will be nice to know that somebody likes what I am doing and it will help encourage me along the way.
Now that I have written all this I think I have made a discovery. I think the way you know is by what you do when someone tells you, you will never make it. Do you quit and give up on it just like that or do you work harder and come back stronger like Michael Jordan in high school?
If you quit your job to go become a famous blogger I would call you stupid and let you know you made a big mistake.
If you keep your job to pay your bills and blog in your free time because it’s your passion then I think you are making a great decision. I think every second on this earth you do what you like to do in a responsible way is time well spent.
Maybe I am crazy. Maybe you are crazy to. What is really crazy though is watching Netflix 4 hours a day and not chasing after your dreams. We can either die having seen House of Cards 4 time through or we can die knowing that we chased after our dreams even if we didn’t reach them.
Chase after your dreams no matter how crazy they are. Unless you are my friend who raps. You need to quit and find a new dream. You are a terrible rapper.